Cheating happens. men are more prone to straying than women are.
Of course, they cheat for a multitude of reasons, because relationships — and people — are complex. "All kinds of variations and complications can come up in relationships. "Relationships are the single most complicated [thing] to make work. It's two people from two different families of origin, [and we] expect them to live harmoniously together under certain rules. It's not easy!"
Generally speaking, however, the issues that lead to cheating fall into one of two categories: There’s either a problem with the relationship or a problem with the individual. "Cheating is a symptom generally of relational problems, but sometimes cheating is indicative of an individual's problem 1. He gets a rush from behaving badly …
If you're currently trying to piece back a relationship, you might be wondering why your partner cheated in the first place — not that anything would excuse his behavior, and not that you shouldn't still fantasize about engaging in some Carrie Underwood-style revenge. But in order to move forward, it helps to get to the root of the issue. Here are just a few potential causes: People that cheat may simply like that it's off-limits. “One reason people have affairs is that they get a high from the forbidden nature of cheating. Because it feels wrong, it feels good," .
2. he might be going through a "second adolescence."
Feel like your partner is always making you out to be like...his mom? Is he hiding texts from you and trying to find ways to stay out late? That is a thing that can, unfortunately, happen — and it can be a reason for straying. Some men cheat because they are struggling with what I call 'second adolescence, " They 'parentify' their partner, sneaking around behind their backs, rebelling against the 'rules' of a committed partnership. These second adolescents are looking for separation and individuation, but want someone at home to make them feel secure."
3. He may have narcissistic qualities.
If someone's cheating, they may have an issue with empathy. "Anyone who cheats has a piece of narcissism to their personality," "They’re not thinking about the impact of their own behavior on other people they love" — be it their partner, children, or the person they’ve become involved with.
4. There’s been a breakdown in communication.
“Typically, if someone's cheating, it's because needs aren't being met in a marriage or relationship. That can mean sexual needs — but it often means someone's emotional needs aren't being addressed.
“If someone feels like their partner doesn't care about their emotional needs or what's happening with them on a daily basis anymore, they might try to find someone who appears more interested and excited about them.”
That said, it’s not on you to be his mind reader — it's on him to be an equally communicative partner. If expressing needs and desires is difficult for him, it may be time for him to explore why with the help of a therapist.
5. We have low self-esteem
Somebody other than your partner finding you attractive can be a big ego boost – and if you’re at a low ebb, you might find yourself making decisions you ordinarily wouldn’t if everything were going well. Add to the mix that people feeling low tend to isolate themselves or might be drinking more than usual and you’ve got a recipe for infidelity.
6. We’re addicted
Serial infidelity might be a sign of something a little more serious than terminal dickheaditis – sex addiction. There’s some disagreement over whether sex addiction is a real condition and it’s not always taken very seriously so stats are hazy,
And they are many that contribtes to cheating of us me that i cant mention and explain all like other follwing i will state:
Immaturity,Insecurity,Lack of Male Social Support,Confusion about Limerence versus Commitment,Childhood Abuse,Selfishness,Terminal Uniqueness,Unfettered Impulse,Unrealistic Expectations,Anger/Revenge e.t.c
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